Poz Guys - Do You Like Being Poz?

[rawTOP]

I'm just curious - on a day-to-day basis, do you like being poz or not like it? In other words, do the pros outweigh the cons or vice versa? On the plus side, the sex is probably better, but then all the medical stuff can be a hassle...

[MascMountainMan]

On the plus side: In general, guys who are poz tend to be a lot more fun than guys who are neg. Of course, that's because what makes them fun is what got them infected. But once you convert, you've got access to pretty much as much slutty guilt-free sex with poz guys as you like. It's also pretty much a complete license to never use condoms again. When I was neg, there was the little voice telling me that letting complete strangers breed my ass all the time probably wasn't too smart (I never listened to it...as a bottom, I craved guys unloading inside me, and as a top, I almost never could maintain a hardon with a condom). Once I converted, there was absolutely nothing at all restraining me from barebacking all the time (with the caveat that I'm open with potentially neg partners prior to sex so they can make an informed decision).

I'm happy and healthy and completely free of the hysteria surrounding sex we've had to deal with since the mid-80s.

The downside: Meds are expensive. I have to make sure I always have health insurance. Occasionally, the side effects get to me. A few people, even in the gay community, still to this day freak out when they learn you have HIV. And bug chasers (as opposed to guys who don't know and don't care about their status), I have learned, can be really fucking annoying, pressuring you to breed them at every turn.

[ruralguy7326]

Yup being poz is not all it's cracked up to be. Remembering to take meds on time every day is a real bitch. Keeping a look out for any opportunistic infections.
Another bitch is having to disclose my status every time then deal with a potential freak out and being made feel less than dirt. Seeing the look of horror on dentists faces alone should make you bug chasers think again.

To guys wanting to convert, I say fuckin stop and think again. Understand the full repercussions of the decision to go poz. It's not to be snifed at.

[nottinghamcub]

I agree with the post above.

[wammt]

Same here. I hate being poz., but love being a BB slut. It has been a real pain in the ass.

[hungry_hole]

Does age have anything to do with it? I was very scared of pozing when I was younger. I took my first load during the AIDS crisis in a sauna but I stopped barebacking until 15 years ago. Now olr, I'm not as afraid of pozing, but I still don't want top poz. I'm sure it's not nice to have to deal with being poz.

[barebackboyme]

MascMountainMan said it BEST - "On the plus side: In general, guys who are poz tend to be a lot more fun than guys who are neg. Of course, that's because what makes them fun is what got them infected. But once you convert, you've got access to pretty much as much slutty guilt-free sex with poz guys as you like. It's also pretty much a complete license to never use condoms again. When I was neg, there was the little voice telling me that letting complete strangers breed my ass all the time probably wasn't too smart (I never listened to it...as a bottom, I craved guys unloading inside me, and as a top, I almost never could maintain a hardon with a condom). Once I converted, there was absolutely nothing at all restraining me from barebacking all the time (with the caveat that I'm open with potentially neg partners prior to sex so they can make an informed decision)."

I know part of what makes me more fun is what got me poz in the first place.... I do like the freedom it gives me to have slutty guilt free sex including letting total strangers use me as a dump!!

The downsides are -
#1. Meds are ridiculously expensive. My BF and I each have prescription plans so we are covered 100%. IF we had an 80% co pay which most people have it would still be a huge out of pocket expenses as a 90 day supply costs us $4143 CAD. It would still be over $800 out of pocket co-pay. The point is EXPENSIVE!!
#2. Having to disclose to everyone or have the bareback "debate" - You are poz you should not bareback. think of others, etc etc etc. I tell everyone upfront. I post it in my profiles. and I do not hide it. Some people chose to not chat, talk, or whatever... that is their issue not mine. better to know ahead of time than before it is too late. (Hmmmmm.... Maybe that is not a downside)

[hungry_hole]

MascMountainMan said it BEST - "...once you convert, you've got access to pretty much as much slutty guilt-free sex with poz guys as you like...When I was neg, there was the little voice telling me that letting complete strangers breed my ass all the time probably wasn't too smart...Once I converted, there was absolutely nothing at all restraining me from barebacking all the time"

The downsides are -
#1. Meds are ridiculously expensivw...

What about other "nasties"? HIV is not the only one, so the freedom of a poz guy is still restricted unless you don't care about other diseases.

I've been a BB bottom for 12 years and have felt free and I have taken loads from total strangers: I've taken loads in a gloryhole and I never saw who was on the other side, just his load running down my legs. What I'm trying to say is that an HIV-neg bottom can also allow himself to be a slut and have fun doing it.

[obsidian]

I voted not realy. When I tested poz it was a shock because I had only done bb a couple of one off times. Obviously it only takes one encounter but I dint think it would happen to me. Taking my tablets I find easy but its annoying. I'm healthy now but I might not be for ever.

The only plus side is I get to have bareback sex with no fear from HIV, although I still worry about other bugs, infact I try to avoid people who seem too slutty.

I much prefer bareback but if I could somehow magically become neg tomorrow I would happly go back to condoms.

[rawTOP]

I voted not realy. When I tested poz it was a shock because I had only done bb a couple of one off times. Obviously it only takes one encounter but I dint think it would happen to me. Taking my tablets I find easy but its annoying. I'm healthy now but I might not be for ever.

If you didn't bareback much before testing poz, it's likely you became infected through "safe sex". Safe sex is 10 to 20 times safer than bareback. So if you had safe sex 100 times, that's the equivalent of 5 to 10 bareback encounters...

"It only takes one encounter" applies to safe sex as well as bareback.

[hungry_hole]

For many years I've thought of a Bareback Club where all the men are free of diseases and tested regularly. There would be orgies organized by the club where EVERYTHING goes. I thnk is possible to create such organization.